If you want to make progress toward anything in life, here’s the magic bullet for success: Stop trying.
I know it sounds counterintuitive, but really. Stop with the whole “try” thing.
Allow me to explain: Do you ever wake up in the morning and think, “I’m going to try to clean my house/go for a run/study/insert activity here,” and then just before bed realize you never got around to it? “Hm,” you think, “maybe I’ll try again tomorrow.” SPOILER ALERT: It won’t happen then either.
Trying is ambiguous. Technically, it means to put effort forth or to strive for, but that’s not what our brains have come to understand it as. We hear the word “try” and we know there is a way out. There is no commitment, no dedication, no real intent.
Yoda was on to something when he said, “Do or do not. There is no try.” Ultimately, we have to be purposeful about our actions and intentions for progress to be made. We have to choose to do something. Choose to clean your house, go for a run, or study. Choose to apply for that new job. Choose to network with people outside your typical social circle. By purposefully choosing to act, we begin to engage in behaviors that attend to that determination.
The same thing goes for having a good attitude. Trying to be nice or positive leaves room for uncertainty. If you choose to be happy instead, you’ll be blown away at how your life changes.
So where should you start? Begin by just exchanging your words. Anytime you think or want to say the word “try,” replace it with the word “choose” and watch your momentum begin to shift.
Stop trying. Start choosing.
What are you going to choose today?